Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Bringing Home the Bacon

In my adult life, I've enjoyed creative pursuits and I've been part of the corporate apparatus as well. All of it educational, some of it interesting. And I have been fortunate enough, in my little one's short life, to have the job title Mama, without distraction.

Lately, however, I've been sticking my pinky toe back into the professional world. Again I am able to count myself lucky, because the freelance writing work started to flow as soon as I decided I was ready to take it on.

But man, being a working Mama is tough! My focus is split. I am more tired than I can ever remember being. And sometimes, it seems as if I'm not giving either--my family or my writing--a fair shake. It takes discipline, focus and a lot of brute strength to be a working mother. At times, it can feel overwhelming.

So I thought I'd just take a moment to acknowledge all that we Mamas do in the home and outside the home to make our families run. I truly believe that the core of the family rests with the Mother. This isn't a slight to the Papas out there. Far from it. They make sacrifices of their own. And if they're good Papas, the sacrifices are all for the right reasons.

But it's up to us Mamas, at the end of the day. A Mama is the center of her family's wheel. Without her, most things grind to a halt.

So here's to all us Mamas. Whether we get paid for it or not, we're all working.


Ruth said...

Very timely thoughts for me! I've been thinking about this a lot. I think two things:
I need to find some sort of part time care for my kids, even if it's once a week, so I can get some writing during the day and not stay up every night.
Then, I need to focus on getting enough sleep and start exercising again. I know, me and every other American. But really, if I did those two things I'd be a better mom, and a better writer.
I think right now I'm not doing anything very well. It's hard to know you are spreading yourself too thin until you find yourself scattered all over the place.

Meaghan said...

I just finished having this conversation with yet another Mama. I think this is something a lot of us feel. And the worst, as you point out Ruth, is feeling like you're not focused, and not giving your best to anyone.

It takes discipline to carve out the time we need. Making time to care for yourself (i.e. sleep, excercise) is essential, and yet so many of us don't do it.

Also, part time help. It saves your sanity.

stace said...

What a thoughtful post!!
I do work casual but for me its not as hard. I don't have to take my work home with me and leave work thinking i could have done better. I work when Cooper is at his dad's, so im not always thinking that i should be at home with him and feeling guilty about being at work, because either way,he wouldn't be with me! But i do know what you mean. I know it can be hard. In lots of other things apart from work, i feel scattered because some of my interests need me to focus purely on them, yet at the same time, i feel like i should be focusing purely on Cooper! Does that make sense?? Thanks of the great post! :):)